His Gift. Their Experience.

Elizabeth Craig Boudoir Photography-7He emailed me and wanted to know more about my sessions. At the time I had packages; he bought my 2nd from the top package. He emailed not too long after and upgraded to my top package.

She was so excited for this session. She followed all of my guidance carefully and thoroughly. She communicated with me regularly and the feeling of anticipation was palpable. She was ready.

The energy that day in the studio was sweet, electric and even a bit euphoric. It had been a while since I had someone so so so ready to make her session every inch, every nook, every cranny, every teensy eensy weensy bit and ounce what she knew it could be.

THAT is a good feeling to have in my studio.

We glided through her session with ease and laughter, ohhhhhhing and awwwwwwwing all the way. She glowed.

On her reveal day she brought him with her. I set up the slideshow and walked all the way to the back of my studio to give them space. Watching him take in her photos was such an experience. He kept shaking his head, but in that “YES!” kind of way. In that, “I just have no words” kind of way. He teared up. No I’m not kidding–he teared up as he watched his lovely, beautiful and sexy wife float from one slide to the next and he was so overcome he couldn’t help it. It was so romantic and so intimate.

Admit it. You want one. You want one just like him.

So he did buy her the gift of the session, but it truly was an experience for both of them. Not only did they both get to experience seeing her photos for the first time together, but every time they look at them they will be transported right back to that day.

I’d say that was a worthy investment…and he just bought her session #2…and I just can’t wait…Elizabeth Craig Boudoir Photography-8Elizabeth Craig Boudoir Photography-9Elizabeth Craig Boudoir Photography-10Elizabeth Craig Boudoir Photography-11Elizabeth Craig Boudoir Photography-12Elizabeth Craig Boudoir Photography-13Makeover by AtHome Beauty.

What Kind of Life are You Living?

Yes, You are Worthy-5The other day, I had a grand epiphany. As I sat on my back patio, sipping a glass of wine, I began to trace back my own evolution of adulthood through the years. Teens….moment to moment living, thinking about the future only in ways that made life more exciting, first loves, second chances. Twenties…so carefree, fearless, never mindful of present decisions impacting future outcomes. Thirties….hopeful, more mindful, taking note of exciting occurrences that catapult us into growing up, such as marriage and babies, mortgages. Right here. I traced the beginning of the kind of life I’m living to right here.

The epiphany: I live a safe life.

Can I, just for a moment, help you understand how disappointing this epiphany was for me?? It’s just so….predictable. I hate being a foregone conclusion in any manner.

I realized that before fully accepting the foot I placed into adulthood, followed by the other so happily, I made my decisions based on joy, fulfillment, with ease and with the full and absolute belief that no matter what decision I made, so long as it was made with integrity and truth, the outcome would always be in my favor. I wasn’t lackadaisical. I certainly wasn’t lazy, and never disrespectful of the responsibilities I had that matched my age. However, I had a beautiful trust in myself that I rarely second guessed. I knew, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that everything was going to be ok. There would be ups, downs, storms and sunshine, but when I made decisions they came from a place of joy and truth. Now they come from a place of fear and what-if.

How did I go from being a worry-free, easy-going lover of life and a true gypsy at heart, to anxiousness, fearfulness, and self-doubt?

Each year that a rental lease would run out, it never even dawned on me to stay another year. Why would I?? There were far too many places to see and experiences to be had. Each season presented a wiping clean of the previous one and New Year’s Eve came with the promise of so many new and undiscovered adventures for the following 365 days. I loved meeting new people, I’d try anything once and laughing came so so so easily to me.

This was a beloved and cherished trait in myself that my grandmother passed down to me. She would tell me tales about my grandfather coming home to find notes on the front door when they were just newly married:

“We don’t live here anymore. Come to xxx yyy zzz address. We live there now.”

She would move into one apartment, clean and decorate it and immediately become bored and begin looking for the next dwelling she could take over and make her own…and then move again. It drove my pap crazy. When I heard this story it made me love her even more.

Somehow my gypsy faded into a recess of some corner of some space in my heart, but I found her and wow is she ready to cut loose.

She asked me a question: What kind of life are you living?

“As I sit and reflect on my life, I can without a doubt say how thrilled I am that I led a safe life, never took risks and always took the easy way to ensure no excitement was more than I could handle.”

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Thank God for Women

Love Your Curves-1Because in a world gone mad, at least there is still unending, unquestioning and untiring beauty. We lift up, we smack down. We bring mystery to everything and clarity to all. Our smiles have inspired peace and our curves have bore nations.

Our bodies are the roadmaps upon which history is written. Our minds are the eternal link to the universe that builds the future.

Say what you want, do what you will. This tribe is just getting started…

Who is Responsible for You Liking Yourself?

Self Love = Self Care-1Let me answer that as clearly and compassionately as I can: your own damn self. That’s who.

Let me explain…

For a very long time I have been a collector of a certain type of woman in my studio and it has been such a blessing. All sarcasm and Ebeth-ism aside…I’m realizing my passion is women and I express that passion through photography. I always thought it was the other way around, but it turns out it was the complete opposite. Who would’ve ever guessed that??

So…here I am collecting these beautiful, engaging, brilliant women just overflowing with life and energy, but I see that so many of them share the exact same problem and they just don’t see it…

They are each asking someone close to them to fill them up, love them unconditionally, cherish their faults just as much as their strengths, find them to be exactly what they want and need in this life in every way, believe in them fully, and finally, to simply just love them for who they are, as they are.

But here is the thing: they are not willing to do even ONE of those things on that list for themselves. Not. One. They look in the mirror and sneer at that reflection. For every compliment they are paid they follow it up with some perceived fault of themselves. They go to bed at night counting every calorie while having a pretend fist fight with themselves and they wake up in the morning picking up right where they left off.

What’s more, I’m starting to see a trend happening whereupon women are starting to lay this responsibility on me. Now listen, do not get me wrong here. Nothing, and I mean nothing, gives me more joy than watching a woman walk into my studio as sure as she can be that she’s not going to like her photos and then hand her the box of tissues without her even having to ask as tears stream down her face because she just cannot believe how much she loves them, and herself. It never ever gets old for me.

However…

If someone was doing a street survey and walked up to you and asked you the question: “Who is responsible for you liking yourself?”, what answer would you give? Yesssssss……that’s right. Could you really choke out any other name, other than your own?? No. No you could not. And you know it. So why, then, are you walking around each day as if that answer is any other name other than your own??

And here’s the other thing–pay attention here. This is important. If you are waiting around for your partner to make you feel good about yourself and take on that daily responsibility to fulfill you in every way that has to do with your own healthy self-image….boy are you going to be madly disappointed. First, why would someone do that for you and when you won’t even do it for yourself? Second, do you do that for them? Do you believe it is your sole responsibility to do whatever it is you need to do to make sure that your partner is in love with their own self?

Let me say: if you have a partner that is actively trying to make you feel bad about yourself and does not lift you up in the ways they absolutely should then you have to do your own soul-searching as to why you are still there. I’m talking about 2 people that care for each other very deeply. But you have to know that no matter how much your partner, or anyone else, loves you it is simply not their responsibility to make you love yourself. And my dear dear beloved darlings: it is not my responsibility either.

You have to give something here. You have to see that if you do not ever take an active and participating role in your own healthy self-image, absolutely no one can do it for you. You will, without a doubt, spend the rest of your life living in a puddle of disappointment, disillusionment and dis-ease. Please don’t do this to yourself.

If you have now had your daily wake up call for taking responsibility for your own self love, acceptance and care then may I make a few suggestions? Please start some kind of daily meditation on affirmations of self love. Please take some time each day to sit in stillness and get to know yourself. Please write a list or journal entry on the many ways you cheated yourself and your partner by putting this burden upon them. Please talk to your partner about this soft spot for yourself and ask them how they feel about all of this. Please put some kind of plan of action into place allowing you to spend time doing things that will help you begin to heal and accept yourself.

After all, if you don’t do this, who will? What are you waiting for?Self Love = Self Care-3Self Love = Self Care-4Self Love = Self Care-6Self Love = Self Care-5Self Love = Self Care-2Makeover by AtHome Beauty.