Personal Responsibility

Pittsburgh Boudoir Photographer | Elizabeth Craig Photography-3People-pleaser. What thoughts go through your head when you read those words? For a lot of women, reading those words turns into a head nod, like “Yep…that’s me. Totally”. It’s no wonder; we are just now birthing generations of girls that are actually being taught that they don’t have to be quiet, not only can they speak up and out, but they should. “You can be anything you want to be” actually means what it says in today’s world…it’s not just a saying on a soda can or a t-shirt.

I am a reformed people-pleaser. Well, mostly. I still find myself (rarely, thank goodness) in the aftermath of a situation where I somehow walked away with a responsibility I didn’t ask for, but somehow agreed to take on. But I am so pleased to tell you that my people-pleasing radar is very fine-tuned these days and I’m getting better and better.

Here’s the damn thing about being a people-pleaser: you are like a fucking magnet to people that take advantage of people-pleasers. It’s maddening! It took me YEARS to realize this, and I cannot begin to tell you all that I took on, took responsibility for, spent money on and shed tears for and usually for people that absolutely did not deserve any of it.

Then the concept of “personal responsibility” entered my psyche and the ruminations that have come with that have been a game-changer for me. I learned years ago to cut the takers out of my life and to beware of those trying to get back in, but I never examined the notion of “personal responsibility” in all of it.

At first, I began to apply this to me. I have a personal responsibility to myself to take care of me. I have a personal responsibility to spot situations that I would normally throw myself into the fire, but now back away slowly before I’m tagged in. Ahhhhhhhh….but now. Now, I have started to apply it to others and let me tell you something: I am free!! I am SO MUCH freer than I’ve ever been from that sick, nasty disease we call People-Pleasing. Ahhhhhhhhhhhh…..*big breath in. big breath out* It feels damn good.

My friend, Lola, introduced me to the flip of this concept and I am gift-wrapping this to give it to you. But listen, spotting situations where someone is trying to put a responsibility on you that doesn’t belong to you is hard. It’s even harder recognizing that it not only belongs to the person trying to dump this on you, but to hand it right back to them. It takes confidence and chutzpah. But here’s the good news: the more you do it, the easier it gets to spot and toss back like a water balloon just waiting for its target.

Homework: start honing your radar and recognize situations where your gut is telling you to stay quiet for a minute and reassess a situation where you would normally jump right in. Then, switch gears on that radar and start to recognize situations like this where the person dishing it all out is actually the one that needs to take it and put it right back on their own plate. You will have a MILLION reasons why they can’t. But but but but but…Stop that right now.

I can’t tell you how this has changed everything for me. If you’re anything like me, you think everything is your fault and everything is your responsibility. Wouldn’t it be AMAZING if you were wrong?? Guess what?  You are. You’re wrong. I’m telling you, once your radar is set to this setting it won’t matter how much someone tries to drag you back into a situation, you won’t go. It’s a visceral reaction that will serve you well.

So, go get yourself a bucket of personal responsibility today. Grab a big azz ladle and start dishing it out. Then give yourself one big azz high-five. You deserve it, girl.Pittsburgh Boudoir Photographer | Elizabeth Craig Photography-2-2Pittsburgh Boudoir Photographer | Elizabeth Craig Photography-1-2Pittsburgh Boudoir Photographer | Elizabeth Craig Photography-4Muse: Savannah Letham

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What do those words in this title make you think? Feel? I want them to call to you. I want them to make you think about what they really mean to you.

This is my call to you, ladies. This is my call to you to sit in your Self today. Not only do I want you to read the words in this title and consider how they apply to your Self, and if they do not apply to your Self, what you can do to make them apply, but also how you can apply them to women, period.

We come from a long history of having to compete with each other to survive. That no longer applies. Yes, we must fight harder than men, we must rise higher, be smarter and typically get knocked down more and if you are a brown person of the female gender, it is even more difficult. I mean….wayyyyyyyy more difficult. But we have reached a time when we can now take care of ourselves in a multitude of ways. The competition is over.

It is now time to re-focus that energy into a place where it can be most useful and that is with the entire female population. This is my challenge to you: to reach beyond yourself and give of yourself to women, or even just one woman really. Help me start this movement of recognizing that we are a tribe and frankly, we are all we have. We have each other.

Tell a woman she looks beautiful today. Tell a woman you see the stress in her eyes, but she’s got this and you know it. Tell a woman she’s a good mother. Tell her she’s strong, she will not only make it through this, but she will leap right over it with flames on the heels of her feet. Tell her congratulations, well done, keep trucking.

Tell her you see her, and what you see is a light that shines into this world like no other.

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So Much Update. So Little Time.

Pittsburgh Boudoir Photography Educator-1Goodness me-oh-my….themmmmmmm LEGS! Now I really and truly understand when someone uses the term “legs up to her chin”.

So, just a bit of a catch-up as to what has been going on in my world. I know I’ve been seriously slacking on the blogging and I’m trying to catch my breath but I’ll be honest with you: if you really want current updates on my work you should follow me on my personal Facebook, photography Facebook and education Facebook, as well as my photography Instagram and education Instagram. See why I have no time to blog? Because I have FIVE social media accounts to deal with (insert fainting Elizabeth here).

Hopefully you know by now that myself, along with John and Lola, have opened a boudoir and editorial education business, Elizabeth Craig Education. YES YES YES!! I’m so excited and I know I’ve been bombarding everyone with a crapload of social media getting the word out there so I’m going to keep this snippet brief: launches on 10/29. If you want to register/buy the 10-wk course you have to do so by 10/28 11:59pm EST or you have to wait 3 months until we get through the first round. We’ve had lots of success so far and I AM SO THRILLED!!! Once you buy, you are grandmothered in and will have access to all additional content for life AND the price will be going up you guys. So if you’re interested, now is the time!

Yes, I am still photographing. You guys…seriously…like I could ever stop. But people keep asking me if I’m hanging up the camera for a chalkboard and my answer is, of course, NOPERS! Never ever ever. Right now I am booking for 2019 so keep that in mind for Valentine’s Day!

I pinkie swear I’m going to try and blog more often. In the meantime, come catch me on social media!Pittsburgh Boudoir Photography Educator-2Pittsburgh Boudoir Photographer | Elizabeth Craig Photography-1Pittsburgh Boudoir Photographer | Elizabeth Craig Photography-2Muse: Mia Gilroy

 

His Gift to Her

Pittsburgh Boudoir Photographer Educator | Elizabeth Craig Photography-2He contacted me a few weeks before he was bringing his wife to Pittsburgh from their home in North Carolina. He had surprised her with tickets to the Justin Timberlake concert…and he also wanted to surprise her with a photo shoot with me.

You guys…I was SO OVERBOOKED. My calendar looked like a bomb went off all over it. But I just couldn’t say no. Actually, I said yes, then no. But with a bit of persuasion, they got me back to yes and I am so THRILLED they did.

Beyond being able to photograph this beautiful woman (I mean…..look at her!), meeting this husband and wife was the highlight of my entire month. They were so in love, so over the moon for each other and watching him watch her during the shoot was simply divine.

It is a lovely thing when you witness a man truly enjoy his wife’s beauty.

So, here’s to a bit of persuasion! *clink, clink*Pittsburgh Boudoir Photographer Educator | Elizabeth Craig Photography-4Pittsburgh Boudoir Photographer Educator | Elizabeth Craig Photography-1Pittsburgh Boudoir Photographer Educator | Elizabeth Craig Photography-3Makeover by AtHome Beauty.

 

Join Me Live TODAY!!

IMG_4176Sound the trumpets, blow your horns and get out the champagne! Elizabeth Craig Education is officially OPEN FOR BUSINESS! If you’ve ever had the brilliant idea to open, run and sustain your own boudoir or editorial photography business, this is for you! We have a 10 week, 8 module program that is designed to help you, step-by-step, become your very own photography business owner. Questions? Read on my friends…

Join me today at 12pm on Elizabeth Craig Education Facebook page, Elizabeth Craig Education Instagram page, Elizabeth Craig Photography Instagram page, Elizabeth Craig Photography Facebook page, and my personal Facebook page, Elizabeth Craig, as I host a Q&A Session where no questions are off limits! And I’m starting to realize I have way too many pages!

Click any link above, like or follow, and then tune in at 12pm. Come loaded with your questions and I’ll be waiting for you!