Lately, with the a few recent articles being released and with a new size being added to the “Plus Size” category (truly….this is just absolutely ludicrous) in the fashion world, there has been a mighty outburst crying warfare on weight and what it all means when trying to define beauty. So I thought it would be a great time to just rip the bandaid off and talk about it. And I mean it: let’s talk. See that little “comment cloud” in the upper right hand corner of this post? Go ahead, don’t be scared. Click it. Leave a comment, start a conversation, pipe in with your two cents. I’d love to hear you!
I’m fortunate in my line of work. I get to meet alllllllll kinds of lovely ladies from all walks of life, all fulfilling different roles, all searching for and living their dreams, all leaving an imprint of their energy and self on me. I love it. For me, when it all comes down to it, size really doesn’t have a role in what I do. Regardless of your size, if you can’t feel sexy, if you can’t conjure that vulnerable, sensual side of yourself when you walk into my studio, it makes no difference if you are a size 2 or a 22.
But let’s talk about the bigger issue here: does your size specify your state of health? I would think most of you will answer no. I know some size 0 gals that are truly unhealthy. Underweight, malnourished and salivating while watching a bird swoop down to swipe up a little crumb of someone’s left over breakfast on the ground. Just sad. But with Super (and I use that term very lightly) Models making quotes like “Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels” (God bless her poor daughter) it’s no wonder in the world of woman empowerment, where, even though we still have to fight a bit more for what we want, women who can truly have it all still list losing weight as one of their top priorities. And c’mon…for a lot of us it’s numero uno. On the other hand, this overwhelming movement for the acceptance of “Big is Beautiful” is just as disturbing. An obese, or truly overweight, person is no healthier than the 5’10” size 0. Don’t kid yourself.
I get it though. It’s not easy being a woman. I struggle daily with what I’m supposed to be in this world. I don’t want to feel like I need to prove I have a feminine side when I change a flat tire on my car. I don’t want to feel like I have to prove my commitment to feminism when I want to wear lipstick and bake a pie. And I don’t want to have to apologize for being a feminist. I joke with my husband that I feel like I have to cook, keep house, do laundry, make money, raise a powerhouse for a daughter, fulfill myself, fulfill him and all while making the world a better place and, wait….I’m supposed to do all of this while looking like Angelina Jolie?? (and to be frankly honest here, John cleans the house, does most of the cooking, all the laundry, keeps us rock solid with his continuous brilliance on how to keep our business successful and make no mistake, he rocks an awesome tutu when playing with our daughter while teaching her to rock this world all on her own.)
But truly truly truly, the age-old, snicker-inspiring quote rings true: size doesn’t matter. It’s your health and feelings about yourself that matter. If you can get both of those on the same page in a positive way, you’re simply unstoppable.
Ok ladies, don’t hold back. Let’s talk.